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Quieting Anxiety

Sweating palms, stomach aches, shaking, feeling heat rush to your cheeks, running out of breath, tossing and turning in bed and feeling sick are just a few of the physical feelings anxiety can cause. Anxiety isn’t uncommon — all of us experience some form of anxiety at some point in our lives — but how do you deal with it.

What even is anxiety?

Anxiety is just like worry or fear, only heightened. It can be about things that are going to happen in the future, things that have happened, or things that might not even happen at all. If you care for someone, or someone relies on you for your help, anxiety might be something you feel a lot of the time. Of course, feeling anxious is a natural human emotion, but when anxiety begins to take up most of your time, thoughts and has physical effects on your health and well-being, that’s when it’s time to get help.

“Anxiety is like your body working overtime, working against you”- Alice, 23.

So what can you do about it?

The first step to managing anxiety is understanding that you are not alone. No one is going to judge you for the way you are feeling, and in fact, many people you might not realise are struggling with the same feelings as you.

Going to your GP and talking it through is an important way of getting the help you need, or talking to a friend or someone at University or work, but in the meantime, here are some simple tips to help you quieten your anxiety whenever you need them.

Breathe

Breathing seems simple enough, right? But it’s actually incredibly helpful to refocus your mind and be calm. Close your eyes whenever you feel anxious and try imagining breathing in colours — breathe in a colour you like, a colour that makes you feel positive, and breathe out a colour you don’t like. In with the good out with the bad. Visualisation is a great tip for taking your mind off whatever is worrying you.

Make a List

Sometimes, your brain just needs to reorganise itself to feel better again. Write down everything you’re anxious about, no matter how big or how small, and then tell yourself you’ll get to it later. Setting aside time to be anxious usually means that by the time you come to look at the list…the worry is gone. Or another therapeutic tip is to write it all down, and then rip all your anxiety up and throw it in the bin.

Repeat a Mantra

I’m okay, I’m okay, I’m okay. It can be as simple as that. Sometimes it helps to remind yourself that what you’re anxious about isn’t real, or may not even happen. Find words that work for you, that make you feel comforted, and repeat them whenever you feel anxious. It could be something from a book, your favourite film, or something that makes you laugh.

Try the CALM mantra – Choose something for each letter personal to you that makes you feel calm. Like – Cats, (Your friend) Anne, Light and Mindfulness.

Remember you are not alone.

Caring can be tough and cause a lot of worry – especially when the person you care for might be sick or in hospital. But it’s not selfish to need some time out, and it’s not weak to need help or to talk it through with someone you love or trust.

Georgia-May Stone

This blog was taken from the amazing YACbook – the website for young adult carers. Read more articles like this.

 

 

 

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Loneliness

Loneliness. It’s a pretty simple definition in the dictionary – sadness because one has no friends.

Yet, I have friends. It’s a much more complicated noun than we give it credit for.

Being a carer is non-stop, there is always something to do, a place to go an appointment to keep, so being lonely is almost a contradiction. I’m with people all the time. I listen all the time, listen to others’ sadness, worries, and ailments.

Some days I’m screaming inside because of frustration (this world is still not built for wheelchairs) and pain because if I bend one more time, push, sit, stand, drive, I think I’ll throw up, but keeping that scream and the reasons for it safe inside my mind is a far better option than actually telling someone what I’m thinking – heck if I said half of what I’m thinking aloud I’d sound bonkers! No one needs to hear that stuff. I’m with my loved ones all the time too and they also don’t need to hear my issues, I even see the doctor but she’s the last person I’d tell, I mean, what if I tell her my thoughts and they come to take me away ha ha? … So, am I really lonely? … all these people around me all the time? Am I?

Yes. Yes I am. But I’m aware it’s my doing. Aware that unless I share these thoughts of mine I’ll always be lonely. I keep saying no one needs to hear my scary thoughts but perhaps someone will want to hear them. I understand what I’m writing and doing so is therapeutic, I’m also aware that unlike so many I do have people around.

This years Carers Week is about supporting carers to be healthy and connected. Whether juggling work with looking after someone or being unable to enjoy hobbies or some down time with friends, many carers suffer from isolation, stress and poor mental health due to their caring role. Many don’t say anything to friends, family or work colleagues.

Loneliness is a complicated word and should be redefined perhaps – sadness because one cannot share.  That covers many a lonely person.

Kate Grant

 

 

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Crystal Healing

I’ve developed a new love of crystals.

I’ve always been drawn to crystals but had never really taken the time to learn about them, all the different types or their origins. I just thought they were pretty to look at. But after a camping trip last year, my love and knowledge of crystals has grown to what some might call, an obsession.

Our camping trip started along the Jurassic Coast of Dorset, specifically Weymouth and Lyme Regis. As I child I spent many sunny (and not so sunny) weekends in Weymouth, but I had never been to Lyme Regis before. When we arrived, the dramatic scenes of waves crashing into the cliffs, the earth-toned rocks and pebbles that lined the beach and the greying clouds above us in the sky all told me this was a place I was going to love.

We began walking up the very steep hill to the high street shops, stopping to get a freshly baked pastry on the way, when I saw the shop displaying remarkable fossils and the biggest crystals I’d ever seen. We stepped inside, my partner distracted by the shark tooth fossils, and my eyes laid upon the crystals on key chains. All of them so unique, yet similar in their surprisingly smooth surfaces and their incandescent colours. I eventually settled on a crystal called Citrine, a vibrant orange with flickers of black floating at its sharpest point. I felt strangely drawn to this crystal and immediately bought it and attached it to my keys so I could have it with me.

It wasn’t until we got back from our camping trip (one of the downfalls of camping – the limited internet!) I did some research on my new crystal keychain.

Citrine – called ‘The Light Maker,’ is the stone of creativity, something incredibly important to me, and is the traditional birth crystal of June, my birthday month. I couldn’t believe how much this crystal, its qualities and attributes, related to me. And so I travelled further down the crystal rabbit hole.

Crystals have been used for spiritual, emotional and even physical healing for centuries, some can be traced back to 300BC and before. And even if you’re not completely on board with the whole crystal healing thing, having symbols that remind you of emotions, people or feelings can be a powerful thing. For instance, the crystal Celestite is said to have caring and supportive properties and is used to remind people that they never have to go through the storm alone.

3 in 5 of us will become a carer at some point in our lives, and no one should have to go through that journey alone. Maybe the Celestite crystal can be a reminder of that fact, sitting on your kitchen counter or bedside table, reminding you that no matter how difficult or lonely things get, you can pick up the phone to talk to a friend, a loved one, or one of us at Carer Support Wiltshire.

So now, for me, crystals are more than just pretty things to look at. Although I’m sort of running out of space on my keys and in my flat for places to put them!

Georgia – Young Adult Carer Communications Officer

 

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Giving something back

I have been caring in one manner or another for the previous twenty years – firstly for my elderly parents – my father had COPD and finally cancer, my mother developed Alzheimer’s and Vascular Dementia, and my children have had to cope with various difficulties.

During one particularly intensive period of caring in 2014, I realised I had no choice other than to give up work and move areas so that I could care full time. It was a huge change in my life – giving up my job of 23 years working in the Chief Executive’s office of a NHS Foundation Hospital Trust in Surrey as well as moving home.

My new GP surgery identified me as a carer, which led me to access the support, information and help I needed. This included putting me into contact with Carer Support Wiltshire (CSW) who were an absolute saviour during this period. They have been there for me in times of real crisis and provided support and direction when sometimes I didn’t know where to turn.  Absolutely amazing!

After three years full-time caring, I felt in a position where I really wanted to reach out and contribute something. Volunteering seemed the perfect solution and my first thought was CSW. They had provided me with so much help during difficult times and it was my chance to give something back.

I approached Vince Danaher, their Volunteer Manager, who offered me a friendly and informal first meeting at the Semington offices.  I explained my position in that I had been three years away from work, my confidence had dropped, and I just wanted to give a little back. I was unsure as to just how much I could commit hours-wise, but that wasn’t a problem.   We talked about areas in which I could potentially help, and I asked if I could join the Administration Team, which I eventually did!

I can honestly say that it was one of the best things I have done!  I was gently introduced into the organisation, and trained up on processes by the lovely Office Manager, Heather, pictured with me here.

I was so nervous, but I am so glad I took that initial step. It’s great to feel you can give just a little something back for all the help you’ve received. Volunteering has helped to build my confidence and given me a sense of pride.

I’d really encourage anyone else to ‘bite the bullet’ and have a go at volunteering!  It changes your outlook on your own life because things don’t appear quite so insular – and it’s really helped give me a lift.

There are so many opportunities within the organisation where help is greatly needed, whether it be admin, talk and support for carers, fundraising, running a café or group.

Go for it!

Susan, admin support at CSW

 

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Can we be positive about the future for carers?

New Year: a time for reflections and looking ahead.  January is the season for planning, still in the depths of winter but looking forward to spring, the promise of new things.

The winter pressures, always much heralded, have been phenomenal this year.  Speak to carers and you can’t fail to be shocked at the difficulties they are experiencing daily – take for instance the carer who described her husband falling and having to wait 5 hours for an ambulance, helping her husband as best she could while he lay prone on the floor.  Third World conditions in our hospitals with trolleys queuing even into reception areas, dignity compromised; staff shortages across health and social care; the difficulty in finding the care wanted; rising fees and other financial pressures brought on by the changes in the benefits system; increasing use of food banks.

It is difficult to talk about signs of hope and taking control when faced with such a catalogue of difficulties; the lived experience while our political system is in turmoil.

But let’s step back; hard though it is and think about some positives.  Politics affects us all – like it or not.  Many of us have been concerned at the lack of political backing for carers – the failure to deliver on a new national carers’ strategy despite all the work done to deliver it leading to local areas such as ours here in Wiltshire to finalise their own, fed up with waiting for the national one.

Caring is not and should not be a political issue – it is one that affects and underpins wider society: the 3 in 5 of us who will become a carer.   Together carers underpin our communities.  Look at your local community and I bet you’ll find that many of the people who are active are carers – the notion of social justice being fundamental to many.

So it is with relief that carers and caring are now better understood by politicians of all hues who see that in any cross section of the health and social care workforce you will see carers making up over 50 per cent (and volunteers another 25 per cent).

Cross party, politicians are now agreed on some basics: the NHS needs a better funding solution; that health and social care needs to join up – adding it to the title of the Secretary of State is a statement of intent that needs to be driven by action right down to county halls and CCGs and into our local communities; that isolation is eating away at the fabric of communities.

All good stuff but will this consensus hold when we are faced with difficult funding decisions? Are we willing to pay more taxes; should our young people be further burdened – or do we collectively need to bite the bullet and press our political representatives to cast aside tribal politics and work together for all.

As catkins appear in hedgerows and snowdrops push their heads out of the cold earth I can only remain hopeful that 2018 will not be remembered for the year carers were left to pick up the pieces with yet another failure to resolve this most pressing of issues.

Carer Support Wiltshire will be raising the profile of carers of all-ages in Wiltshire and beyond; and playing its part in seeking a shared approach in finding a solution not just in the corridors of power but where it matters – here in our communities.

Catharine Hurford, Chief Executive of CSW

 

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A Day in the Life of a YAC Support Worker

My name is Andrea and I am very lucky. As the Young Adult Carer Support Worker for Carer Support Wiltshire I have the privilege of working with some of the most amazing young people you could ever wish to meet.

A young adult carer is someone aged 18-25 years old who looks after a loved one who couldn’t always manage without their support. It might be because of a disability, illness, mental health problems or substance misuse. It might be all that they have ever known from a very young age.

Their lives are often difficult, juggling caring with studying or working. If they are lucky, they get to spend time with friends and do all the things that young people their age should be doing, but that’s often a luxury. Whilst their peers are thinking about further education, careers and their social lives, they are worrying, planning, arranging and doing all the things that will keep their loved one safe, well and cared for.  Many young adult carers suffer with mental health issues due to the extreme stress they are under. However, they all have an inner strength and determination which I find incredible.

My days vary, from spending time one-to-one with young adult carers, talking to support services and other organisations who may be able to help, to raising awareness in the regions colleges.

Today, I met a young lady who wants to go to university. She is worried that if she goes, there will be no-one to look after her mum. This is a common problem amongst young carers who want to spread their wings and build a future, but don’t want to abandon the person they care for. We talk about how important it is to stay true to your dreams and what we can do to help make it happen. This includes information and guidance around loans and the funding she will need to finance her education.

Later I support a young adult carer during a Needs Assessment for her mum. The assessment will help them access the help they need so that she can go back to work. She is nervous about meeting so many professionals and I’m there to make sure she doesn’t feel overwhelmed.  I will also organise a meeting with a Macmillan Welfare Advisor for another young carer. At the age of 18 the prospect of running the family finances on your own is quite scary.

After a cup of tea and large piece of homemade cake, I type up a grant application that will hopefully enable a young adult carer to learn to drive. Many parts of Wiltshire are quite rural and being able to take the person you care for to the GP, hospital or shopping is so much easier and less stressful if you are not having to use the bus.

The day is nearly over, but not before I see a young adult carer start her volunteer training here at CSW. Her journey has been particularly difficult with sometimes no end in sight, but we have worked together and never given up, and now here we are! There will be other challenges along the way, because that is the nature of a caring role, but little steps lead to bigger strides and seeing her here gives me great job satisfaction.

If you would like any further information about Young Adult Carers take a look at our Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/YACWiltshire/ or call us on 0800 181 4118.

If you are a Young Adult Carer and feel uneasy about speaking on the phone email me on andrea@carersinwiltshire.co.uk. I look forward to hearing from you.

 

Andrea

 

 

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Filling in the gaps

A gap in your CV could be a good thing – be proud of yours!

A friend of mine has been job-hunting recently and, bit by bit, despite having no good reason to doubt himself, I’ve noticed the usual job-search insecurity creeping in. It got me thinking about how good we all are at underestimating our own value and tripping ourselves up.

A lot of the anxiety stems from the gaps in his CV and how adequately he feels he can justify them. This is a worry that so many face when it comes to filling out job applications – not least carers and ex-carers who have taken a break from work to care for a loved one.

Caring doesn’t necessarily mean taking a break from work though, and being a working carer is gradually becoming normalised in the workplace. Currently, nearly 1 in 8 employees is a carer at any one time – meaning many more will be a carer at some point in their careers.

At Carer Support Wiltshire, roughly 30% of our workforce are carers and, as you’d expect, being a carer-aware employer is something we pride ourselves on – and we aren’t the only ones. Employers are increasingly realising the impact that caring is likely to have on their workforce. With the war on talent still raging, no employer can afford to be complacent, and forward-thinking companies are taking steps to make sure their employer brand is a carer-friendly one.

Despite this increased awareness, it’s easy to lose your confidence if you’ve been out of work for a while. People all too often convince themselves that their caring role represents a weakness in their CV, and fail to recognise the wealth of experience and new skills that caring provides. This lack of confidence can result in attempts to try to hide any gaps in your work history.

Don’t let yourself think that your caring role is a disadvantage which needs to be swept under the rug. Being a carer is a hugely valuable experience, which allows you to develop incredibly useful skills – many of which can be applied in the workplace. What’s more, recruiters will spot any efforts to disguise employment gaps a mile off and ask you about it anyway!

It’s better to be truthful about any periods of unemployment from the start. Interviewers are just people after all, and they too are likely to have personal experience of caring. There’s no need to go into any great detail – keep it brief and factual. And don’t forget: nobody’s CVs are perfect! Lots of people take career gaps but not everyone has such a selfless reason for doing so.

What an employer wants is to find a great addition to their team, who has the right skills to do the job. Everyone has weaknesses to contend with; focus on your strengths and don’t let self-doubt trip you up!

Lizzie Rapley, CSW Partnerships and Development Officer

 

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The Other Side of Life (and the guilt that goes with it)

Mum, carer and CSW support worker, Jacqui talks about the importance of letting the G word go.

It’s obvious really, but there is, of course, another side to life. It’s often difficult to see it and there is a huge sense of guilt associated with thinking you might even enjoy it. It takes energy to balance the guilt with desire; especially if it might be upsetting to others and something you’ve forgotten how to do.

Whether we like it or not, the rest of the world does not stop and wait for us to catch up when we are down or behind, or busy looking out for others. The seasons don’t wait, opportunities pass by and friends move on. We have every right to seize a moment, crack a smile and look after ourselves, but we are so conditioned to think we are not worthy or deserving of these ‘luxuries’ that we often shake our head and keep on going.

Looking after somebody else is not always easy and looking after yourself gets overlooked time and again until you are brave enough to try it; to challenge your own thoughts that others should always come first.

When you find the strength to say ‘no’ to a request or demand from somebody else, or you are encouraged to take some time out for those simple pleasures that don’t always come easy, this is what you discover:

  • There is still pleasure in ice cream, flowers and sunshine. Nobody will judge.
  • Baking a cake is relaxing. You can still share the results.
  • Shopping is possible without thinking about something or somebody else all the time.
  • You can have coffee with a friend and discover more of ‘the other side of life’.
  • A trip doesn’t have to include everybody. That way you have something to talk about.
  • Talking and sharing with others feels ok.
  • Bubble bath smells better than cleaning fluids.
  • Friends are gold dust and want to help.
  • Relaxing is strange but good for you.
  • You have more emotional reserves to carry on caring.

 

 

 

 

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How does your garden grow?

A few years ago my wife suggested we get an allotment. What a lot of hard work! Digging, some more digging and then a bit more digging. It took a lot of effort to remove the bind weed, and get it ready for growing vegetables.

Not only did I have to carry out hard labour, but also communicate with people I did not know – experienced allotment holders who knew how to talk vegetables. For some people this is easy, but as an introvert, conversation about soil quality and manure proved easier said than done.

Over the last two years things have changed and my wife has been unable to maintain the allotment. This meant it was down to me to keep it going.  At first I wasn’t keen, but now, what a joy! Peace and quiet in the sunshine. Time to reflect, unwind after work. Take a break from the pressures of caring, work, being a father. Sometimes I get a call, ‘what’s taking you so long?’ Digging, I say, but the truth is, I’m just sitting in a chair, watching the butterflies and bees and congratulating myself on what we’ve created.

Working within a charity that strives to adapt to the future, reminds me of the allotment. Over the last year all the staff within my team have worked hard to make sure that what we do fits with the changeable external climate. Sometimes it’s been challenging and like all that digging I’ve wondered whether the challenge will ever be worth the work.

As I’ve sown and nurtured new seeds, the charity has implemented new systems, created projects that support even more carers and reduced our office space. Now the ground is laid and the whole team and organisation are beginning to grow into these new ways of working. There are still issues that need to be dealt with, and like the weeds that pop up and drive me crazy there are sometimes problems, but we manage these together through communicating and being open. We are getting there and working together to ensure that what we do in the future is relevant to the thousands of unpaid carers across Wiltshire.

And like my allotment, I’ve changed. I have learnt to listen to the people I work with, I have learnt to work together to consider the best way to adapt in an ever changing environment. I have also learnt that by doing this, I can uncover skills within those people, and myself that I never knew existed.

So now, when I sit in the chair admiring my allotment, I understand that it wasn’t just down to me.  My wife drew pictures, my children helped plant seeds, and I plucked up the courage to ask more experienced growers for tips. What else? Well, I can tell you that manure is much underrated!

Tom Blowers, Support Services Team Leader

 

 

 

 

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The problem with patience.

People always say, aren’t you patient.
Truth is – I have no patience at all.

I get so mad when I can’t get my mum and her wheelchair in to a shop or restaurant, making my feelings known out loud, huffing and puffing and tutting. In this day and age is it really too much to ask for a ramp, or even some assistance?  When shops place A-Frames on the pavement, I physically move them and make a big song and dance about it. I refuse to push my mum’s wheelchair in to the road to get by!

And clothes shopping…..well, this does not please me either. My mums in a wheelchair that’s all, she still likes to shop but shops are all about revenue and floor space. Which I understand, of course I do, but it doesn’t help me when I’m trying to push my way through thousands of trousers and tops, hangers getting hitched on me and the chair – urgh! I tend to stick to the same places that have given assistance previously and move rails for me or even provide an assistant to hold the basket when wheelchair trolleys are not provided. But then I lose patience about that, too! Why should my mum only be able to visit certain stores and not be able to just browse anywhere she likes?

Paying for something is another minefield. I know that extra wide tills can’t be left open for wheelchair users, but we cannot go through any other till and often after we’ve struggled with the wonky wheelchair trolley or basket rested on my mums lap (which gets dropped several times) I really have no patience to wait for the wheelchair-less shoppers in front of me – I tut and huff and puff again.

Using a wheelchair and all that that encompasses is not easy. And we are not yet a country which embraces accessibility. A ramp can cost as little as thirty pounds. Surely shop and cafe owners would want to open their doors to everyone?

My mum is forever telling me to calm down, stop getting moody. Be more patient, she says.

Actually when I think about it, I have no patience with many things, at all.

Is it anger for my mum being in a chair, frustration at having to deal with stupid people, or the lack of empathy from businesses? Or is it simply that I have always been this way, in which case shops and stupid people of the UK beware!

Kate Grant. Impatient carer

 

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I worry about stuff.

I worry if little E is going to be ok on her first day at school. If the chicken has been cooked properly. If people will judge me by the fact that I rarely hoover under or behind things. If I will have enough money to go on holiday. I worry that too many children in the world suffer abuse.  If I am a good enough friend. If the cake is too dry. If the baby penguin will find its dad and survive the winter.  If the fridge will hold out for just a bit longer.  If my mum is ok.

We all worry about stuff. Some of it’s about the things we can’t control, some of it doesn’t matter to anyone but you and you might want to give yourself a stern talking to, but what happens when you not only have to worry about your stuff, but you have to worry about someone else’s too? Someone you care about. What happens when it’s really important stuff like giving medication, making sure they have enough food in the house, organising hospital and doctor appointments, helping them get out and about, and into bed; bathing, benefits, finances and frustrations? Convincing them it’s ok. They are ok. What happens when you have a job and you don’t know how you can fit their stuff into your own without yours falling apart?

3 in 5 of us will become a carer at some point in our lives. Birth, death, a diagnosis, accident, or old age – there are many reasons why we might end up looking after someone. We will be doing what anybody would do in that situation.  Right? We will be caring for someone.

Here in the UK, 6,000 people begin that journey every day. This Carers Week let’s give a thought to them.  Let’s think about the stuff they will have worry about, deal with, have to learn, fight, find the time for. Who worries about them?

Here at Carer Support Wiltshire we provide support, information and advice to carers in Wiltshire. There are organisations like us all around the UK working to help build carer friendly communities where everyone feels supported to look after their family and friends and are recognised as individuals with needs of their own.

If you know someone who is looking after a loved one, check they are ok. Tell them, if they don’t already know that there is support out there.

If you live in Wiltshire and would like more information on the support available call 0800 181 4118.

You can find out more about Carers Week here: http://www.carersweek.org/

Jules Stanbridge, Communications Manager, Carer Support Wiltshire

 

 

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New beginnings…

Are you new to caring – or perhaps looking down the line a little and thinking that’s coming my way?

First of all remember, caring is something that is to be celebrated, enjoyed and respected.  Too often we can focus on the pressures and hear only the bad news stories – that brings us all down and encourages a culture of ‘avoidance’.  So, let’s turn the conversation on its head and together build a culture that celebrates and values caring.

Start the talking:
With yourself, with your closest family, with the people you will help care for, your wider family, and neighbours and friends.

It’s never easy – people don’t want to ‘wash their linen’ in public; people feel their pride is at stake; they don’t want to be disempowered.  But if early on people learn to share small tasks, (mowing the lawn, doing shopping, putting out the bins), then the giving and accepting of care is just more natural and not unusual.

Putting the house in order
Nobody likes forward planning – not even the lawyers among us – but it is really important to lead from the front.  You can set up financial and health and well-being plans for yourself if you take the lead and do it for yourself then some of the harder conversations with the people who may need care in future become easier. Check out www.gov.uk/power-of-attorney/overview.

Mental capacity
So we need to get our heads around the assumption that people have capacity, including to make unwise decisions.  Though some people may need more help than others in understanding the consequences of that.  And this is where those difficult conversations bear fruit because you know what mum would want in this situation.

Put yourself first
Remember carers give – that’s what they do, but you must be prepared to put yourself first and take care of your own health, and wellbeing – it’s a fundamental rule.  First stop tell your GP that you are a carer – it should open the doors to more personalised care for you. Second stop put your time and energy into maintaining relationships and interests outside your caring role.  No ifs and buts – it’s vital.

Check out the help
There’s help out there – go online and you’ll find tons.  A useful starting point is your local carers’ centre where you can find out more about your rights to benefits, health and care services, tax breaks as well as practical support such as training, support and breaks.  They’ll be able to tell you more about the rapidly growing number of practical aids that can help you care too.  Find out how we can help here.

Know the signs of abuse, neglect and exploitation
You are on the front line of protection against abuse and neglect, as well as financial exploitation of loved ones. Be knowledgeable about the signs of abuse and exploitation, and know what to do if you are worried.

Working and caring?
You have rights in the workplace – does your employer know that you are caring and working – tell them so they can cut you some slack when you need it.

Consider personal care agreements.
Caring often requires a financial sacrifice, especially if work must be cut back or given up. If your loved one wants to provide compensation, you’ll have to be prepared to check out tax questions and consider the potential for family conflict. This is where those early conversations come into their own and it’s worth getting an agreement to spell out terms and expectations.

Catharine Hurford, Chief Executive, Carer Support Wiltshire